Exposure is the Key To Happiness

Be Happy

“You don’t know what you don’t know.”

Expo­sure  is the key to achiev­ing max­i­mum hap­pi­ness in any area of your life.  If you are unhappy, sim­ply look at the amount of expo­sure you’ve had in that par­tic­u­lar area.

Expo­sure will deter­mine your suc­cess or lack of.  Years 0 – 30 are all about get­ting the most expo­sure in every area of the world.  Dis­cov­er­ing all of your options and resources in every cat­e­gory of the world will give you a higher prob­a­bil­ity of choos­ing what will make you hap­pi­est in your life.

Friends

Expo­sure to the great­est num­ber of peo­ple helps you find EXACTLY the type of peo­ple you want and need as your friends.  You are not stuck into choos­ing from a small sam­ple of peo­ple.  This is why those who move away to a big city and have a very large sam­ple of peo­ple to choose as friends will be hap­pier with the friends they end up with later in life.

Those peo­ple who remain in their small town, keep­ing friends with all of their grade school mates, but never mak­ing any new friends may end up not as sat­is­fied.

You can get lucky and your friends in your small town may have exactly the same inter­ests grow­ing up and dur­ing adult­hood, so you would be sat­is­fied.

More often than not, peo­ple grow apart and develop their own per­sonal unique inter­ests, and so remain­ing good friends with those who do not share the same inter­ests any­more  holds you back and causes suf­fer­ing and depres­sion.

Those who try to force the friend­ships to be the same as when they were kids, are even hold­ing them­selves back by not seek­ing out oth­ers who share the same inter­ests as them as adults.

Your hap­pi­ness in every area of your life is a direct result of the amount of expo­sure you’ve had in that area.  If you want to be happy, get more expo­sure to friends.

Rela­tion­ships

Expo­sure to mul­ti­ple rela­tion­ships (boyfriends/girlfriends) will help you be more selec­tive  and later be able to deter­mine EXACTLY the kind of mate that will make your heart sing.  Many 1st time mar­riages in Amer­ica end  in divorce.

If we did a study, it may show that a high per­cent­age of those divorces ended because of low expo­sure.

That means that one if not both of the peo­ple in that rela­tion­ship had very low expo­sure to pos­si­ble mates to choose from.  Because of his/her small sam­ple to choose from his/her chances of select­ing the one which would make his/her heart sing was very slim.

The law of num­bers says the greater the num­ber, the higher the chance.  It’s a shame that soci­ety shuns young woman as “whores” or “sluts,” if they are thought to have been sleep­ing around.  Whether they were sleep­ing around or not is often unknown because it is in pri­vate.

The fact is that when peo­ple sim­ply see the young woman with more than one man fre­quently, a rep­u­ta­tion about her is spread about.

As a con­scious young woman pro­tect­ing her rep­u­ta­tion in the world around her, she fol­lows the rules of soci­ety and tries to be with as few men as pos­si­ble.  This means that she has a small selec­tion to choose the mate which will make her heart sing.

With such a small selec­tion, often times a woman can be forced into con­vinc­ing her­self, or “forc­ing the puz­zle piece to fit” because it’s the best choice of the sam­ple which she has to choose from.

Whether a woman decides to actu­ally engage in the phys­i­cal act of sex is irrel­e­vant to the point.  The point is when select­ing the best mate that will truly make your heart sing, you have a higher prob­a­bil­ity of choos­ing that mate when your sam­ple is larger.

Let’s sup­pose you were a con­tes­tant on a real­ity show which airs daily.   You have 2 rooms.  The first room has 5 guys in it.  The first 5 days, you will go on a date with each guy.

At the end of the 5 days, you will choose which of these 5 guys you most want to spend the rest of your life with.  In the sec­ond room, you have 359 guys.

Over the next 359 days you will go on a date with each guy.  By the end of the year you have dated a total of 365 men.  Now remem­ber you dated 5 men from the first room, the first 5 days and chose the best one from that sam­ple, who you wanted to spend the rest of your life with.

Then you dated the next 360 men.  The ques­tion is, what are the chances that the man you chose from the 1st group of 5 is still the ulti­mate best pick that will make your heart sing?  Slim to none.  The more expo­sure you have, the higher your chances are of know­ing exactly and find­ing exactly what you want.

With very lit­tle expo­sure, peo­ple sim­ply set­tle for what’s “best” out of the selec­tion but not actu­ally best for them.  Your hap­pi­ness in every area of your life is a direct result of the amount of expo­sure you’ve had in that area.  If you want to be happy, get more expo­sure to rela­tion­ships.

Travel

Expo­sure to more places through travel has a dra­matic effect on all of the other expo­sure areas in your life.  A new place will give you expo­sure to new peo­ple, new jobs, new ideas, new cul­tures, new archi­tec­ture, new every­thing.  Expo­sure  to places all over the coun­try and the world will open your eyes to see from new per­spec­tives, new cul­tures, new ways of life.

Many peo­ple who grow up in small towns and neglect to expe­ri­ence  far away lands and peo­ple fall vic­tim to small expo­sure.  They don’t know what they don’t know.  How can you know about some­thing that you don’t even know exists?

One of the most cru­cial areas low expo­sure to travel has is naivety that the small town they grew up in and tiny lit­tle church and reli­gion hap­pens to be the right one and all other ways of life and reli­gion are wrong.    Gosh, talk about luck.

Of all the places to be born in the world and the thou­sands of dif­fer­ent reli­gions that peo­ple believe, you’d have to really lucky to be born into the one that’s cor­rect!

Increas­ing your expo­sure to the world, and befriend­ing the good peo­ple who exist in it, expe­ri­enc­ing their hos­pi­tal­ity and love has an effect on you.  It forces you to ask deeper ques­tions and dig deeper for bet­ter answers.

Set­tling down in the place you grew up means you are set­tling.  You are unin­ter­ested in dis­cov­er­ing what you don’t know.  To me there is noth­ing in the world worse than regret.

To reach the end of your life and then dis­cover some­thing in a book or place which you didn’t know, and lie in your hos­pi­tal bed know­ing that you will never know it.

Your hap­pi­ness in every area of your life is a direct result of the amount of expo­sure you’ve had in that area.  If you want to be happy, get more expo­sure to travel.

Career — Your life mis­sion

Expo­sure when you are a child and all through ado­les­cence  to many hob­bies, sports, games, projects, places and peo­ple will all widen  your selec­tion of areas to become seri­ous in and mold a life path or career.  There are those who are very dis­sat­is­fied with their careers because they have poor low pay­ing  jobs, or un‐respected jobs.

Then there are those  peo­ple whose jobs make hun­dreds of thou­sands of dol­lars each year, yet they are dis­sat­is­fied at the same level or lower than those peo­ple in poor jobs.

The rea­son their dis­sat­is­fac­tion level can be exactly the same is because the dif­fer­ence between their expec­ta­tion and their actual result was exactly the same dis­tance apart.  The prob­lem for this rich man and the poor man is exactly the same.

The prob­lem for both of them is low expo­sure.  The poor man grew up in the ghetto.  His dad was unem­ployed most of the time before he was killed.  His mother had 7 kids and didn’t have to work because she col­lected social secu­rity for each kid.

The poor man never had an edu­ca­tion because they couldn’t afford it.  He never had any men­tor.  His friends were all just like him.

There was no one in the entire world who cared about this man when he was a boy, enough to pull him aside, and say “Young man, this is the direc­tion you need to go.”  He didn’t know what he didn’t know.

The finan­cially wealthy man was a lawyer.  His grand­fa­ther was a lawyer.  His father was lawyer.  His entire life he was told he was going to be a lawyer.  When he was a kid he filed papers in his daddy’s office.  When he was in high school he had an intern­ship at the firm.

After he grad­u­ated from law school he became an attor­ney with the firm.  By the age of 45 he was com­ing home exhausted, unin­ter­ested in what he was doing, and unemo­tion­ally attached to the results he was achiev­ing for his cor­po­rate clients.

Mean­while he came home every day to a happy wife he was enjoy­ing her hobby paint­ing and always had a new piece to show him when he came home.  He was mis­er­able.  He never wanted to be a lawyer.

He was never asked what he wanted to be.  He never worked any­where else as a kid.  He was absolutely clue­less.

He was a vic­tim of not hav­ing enough expo­sure and now fac­ing the con­se­quences.  Your hap­pi­ness in every area of your life is a direct result of the amount of expo­sure you’ve had in that area.

If you want to be happy, get more expo­sure to career options.

Men­tor

How does one per­son get more expo­sure than another per­son?  The answer is a men­tor.  (For most peo­ple, it’s a par­ent to start.)  Those peo­ple who are very poor today likely had very lit­tle expo­sure to any­thing, espe­cially expo­sure to money mak­ing and busi­ness prin­ci­ples.

They had poor par­ents, poor teach­ers, poor friends and no men­tor.  Where would they learn to not be poor?

What is Expo­sure?

Expo­sure is most eas­ily defined as what you expe­ri­ence  through your 5 senses, sight, touch, taste, smell, and hear­ing.  Expo­sure is see­ing from dif­fer­ent per­spec­tives than you saw before by adding new infor­ma­tion and expe­ri­ences into your mem­ory bank.

There are only two ways for you to expe­ri­ence any­thing.  Some­body else (a men­tor) must put you into that sit­u­a­tion, or you must put your­self into that sit­u­a­tion.

Those are the only ways to get expo­sure.

As a young child your expo­sure is lim­ited by

1.  Par­ents

2. Teach­ers

3. Friends

4. Place where you live

5. Abil­ity bring your­self to loca­tions away from home

6.  Abil­ity to talk with adult strangers who are not approved by your par­ents

7. Your expo­sure to the media (within your par­ents per­mis­sion).

Media

Travel is a direct way of expo­sure which you can do on your own to expe­ri­ence dif­fer­ent cul­tures and worlds, once you are old enough to travel.  The other way for us to have expo­sure is through the media; books, tele­vi­sion, movies, radio, news­pa­pers, mag­a­zines, inter­net and more.

These ways of gain­ing expo­sure are indi­rect and only exist because of a men­tor.

A men­tor can be an author, an actor, a speaker, etc.  Since you don’t know the peo­ple in the media per­son­ally, the only way for you to be men­tored by them is if you con­sciously knew about them and chose to learn from them.

Cau­tion

You have to be care­ful when choos­ing cer­tain forms of expo­sure.  There is “laser tar­geted” expo­sure and there is the “open wide and take it” expo­sure.  The lat­ter being very high risk to the qual­ity of expo­sure.

Laser tar­geted means that you choose EXACTLY what you want to be exposed to.  You elim­i­nate all other  unnec­es­sary dis­tract­ing infor­ma­tion and absorb only what you want and need.

This saves you time and energy but more impor­tantly pro­tects your sacred tem­ple from evil attacks.  “Laser tar­geted” expo­sure comes from books and audios.

“Open wide and take it” expo­sure means you just open your­self up, lie back and allow a tsunami of infor­ma­tion to flood your tem­ple.  With no con­trol or choice over what comes in, you just open wide and take it all in.

“Open wide and take it” expo­sure comes from tele­vi­sion, radio and mag­a­zines.

Self Ques­tions

Your hap­pi­ness in every area of your life is a direct result of the amount of expo­sure you’ve had in that area.  If you are unhappy, take a step back and look at that par­tic­u­lar area.  Ask your­self these ques­tions.

1. Dur­ing ado­les­cence how many ________ have I been exposed to choose from?
2. Of the exact area I am unhappy with now, how did I make the deci­sion to arrive there?
3. Of the area I am unhappy now, what is keep­ing me in this sit­u­a­tion?
4. Who do I need to speak with to get more infor­ma­tion to change this sit­u­a­tion?
5. What do I need to research to get more infor­ma­tion to change this sit­u­a­tion?
6. Where do I need to go to get more infor­ma­tion to change this sit­u­a­tion?
7. What can I do imme­di­ately after read­ing this arti­cle to cre­ate mass momen­tum in the direc­tion that will change this sit­u­a­tion for me?
8. When would I like to have this sit­u­a­tion resolved?

Mas­sive Amounts to Be Happy

Mas­sive amounts of expo­sure is your answer. Don’t think that you can just do one lit­tle expo­sure and your sit­u­a­tion is solved.  Remem­ber,  your hap­pi­ness in every area of your life is a direct result of the amount of expo­sure you’ve had in that area.

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Your Per­sonal Growth Men­tor,

James Black­burn

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