Let 1 Woman Crown You, or Women Will Destroy You

Why Get Married

Note: The title is aimed at heterosexual men, but this article holds true for homosexual men as well.  Just replace the word woman with man in the title.

Women are man’s leading supply of energy.  Women will make or break you.  Men will fight harder than they’ve ever fought before…for a woman.  Women fuel man’s fire, they also put it out.

Women will drain every last ounce of energy from your soul until you have nothing left, but to rot in hell.  I can assure you, if you don’t let a woman crown you, women will destroy you.

Since I was 13 old, there was nothing more important to me than women.  Every action of every day was born from a desire to connect with a woman.  Barely old enough to perform, I bought my first “How to Please a Woman” book at the age of 15.

I read the book at least 10 times, memorizing each page.  Unfortunately, I didn’t have much opportunity to practice what I learned until I made it to college because I was a nervous kid when I was around women.

It wasn’t until 22 years old when I moved to Chicago and read chapter 11 of Think and Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill.  For 9 years of my life, I had been flipping over the puzzle pieces from face down to face up and for the first time I could see all the pieces right side up.

Now I just needed to assemble the puzzle.  In October of 2003, a few short months after I read the book, I met the most perfect match I’ve ever laid my eyes on in my entire life.  We were married 3 weeks later.  By 2008 the puzzle was almost assembled, but I was missing one piece.

The desire for sexual pleasure is so strong, especially in a man, that it takes complete control over your mind every minute of every day until your desire is fulfilled.

That’s because sexual pleasure far outweighs the pleasure received from any other source, even the emotional pleasure experienced through genuine love.  The difference is the intense physical pleasure from sex is short term compared to the long term emotional pleasure of love.

It’s this powerful, natural desire for sexual pleasure that drives all men.

Between the ages of 13 to 23, nothing in life mattered to me but sports and women.  Unlike most boys, it wasn’t just an instinctual cry of hormonal expression that fueled my fire.  It was way deeper than that, it had a heart.

When I was 4 years old my parents were divorced.  By 11 years old, my mother was divorcing her second and marrying her third.  After a few unsuccessful relationships my dad married his second the same year.

By 18 years old, my dad was divorced and married to his third a few years later.  From the time I was 4 years old, I knew nothing but failed relationships.  I could not understand the answer to why get married.

I experienced pain through my father’s heart on several occasions and vowed to protect myself from the same pain.  As a teenager, I developed an internal drive for success and refusal to fail in everything I did.

It was the avoidance of pain and refusal to fail that stimulated my intentions.  By 15 years old, all of my time was spent wrestling and reading about women.

I was determined to be everything that a woman wanted and please her in every way that it would be impossible for me to fail in a relationship.

I did exactly that.  Between 18 and 23 years old, if I wasn’t in school or working out, I was on a date.  I went out with so many women that I had no time to do anything else.

I developed a natural knack for attracting women that I often was responsible for supplying them for everyone else when we had parties.

I developed a step by step routine for doing everything exactly right to please a woman from the moment I met her… until the end of our first date.  I know what you’re thinking, you dog. 

See, it wasn’t about that.  I truly wanted to make women feel so special and happy when they were around me.  Whenever I pleased a woman physically and emotionally, it made me feel twice as good.

The emotional rewards and confidence boosters of making somebody feel so happy are mind blowing.  Each time I went on a date, whether I really liked the girl, or just sort of liked her, I went through the same routine.

It was ALWAYS about making them feel really good about themselves and truly be happy, and whatever happened that night happened.

It was all this exposure to women that led me to the perfect wife today.  (Exposure is the key to happiness in every area of your life.)  Every woman I ever dated helped me form in my mind exactly what I wanted, and exactly what I didn’t want.

After numerous women, it became crystal clear what I was looking for.  How are you supposed to hit a target if you don’t even know what you’re shooting at?  Sadly enough, that’s how many people choose their spouses.

After a very small sample, they certainly havn’t experienced enough personalities to narrow down exactly who will make their heart sing.  Out of fear of never finding that person who makes their heart sing and pressure to have a family, they settle for less than happiness.

I can honestly say that if I didn’t find somebody who truly “made my heart sing and vibrate,” I simply would have never married.  I thought the odds were against me because I was so crystal clear and picky with what I desired in a wife that it didn’t seem possible to find her.

It turned out that my crystal clear expectation was exactly what led me to my wife.

By being crystal clear of my target, my awareness was raised and my eyes were now open.  Without being crystal clear, your target could walk right by you 10 times per day and you would never see her!

Becoming crystal clear is the first step in attracting that which you desire.  (Read Accomplish Anything Guaranteed to gain a deeper understanding.)

Let’s go a little deeper.  While I was forming exactly what I wanted in my mind, my wife was also forming exactly what she wanted in her mind.  It was the magnetic power of our thoughts which brought us together.

The most powerful force in the world is thought.  You truly can get whatever you want by thinking about it.  (It’s ironic that you also get what you don’t want by thinking about it.)

Between 1999 and the present, I accumulated a massive, mastermind library of over 350 mentors.  It was in my 4th year of marriage that the last piece of the puzzle was found.  Finally, Chapter 11 in Think and Grow Rich made complete sense.

The feeling of finally understanding something you’ve pondered and researched for so long is incredible!

Chapter 11 was called Sexual Transmutation.  In a nutshell, the desire for sexual expression is so strong in males that they will spend all of their time seeking to fulfill that desire for expression.

Most males do not become successful until after 40 years old, and many well up into their 50′s.  It’s their desire for sexual expression that holds them back.

The most valuable asset in the world which everybody has the same is time.  Everybody has the same 24 hours in a day when they wake up in the morning.  (Learn to make more time for yourself with the Personal Value Pyramid.)

After subtracting the time you’re working at a job, the time you’re sleeping and the time you’re seeking sexual expression, most men are not lot left with any time.  Many men actually go into work Monday morning with a deficit from their weekend.

This incredible discovery was realized as my time for building personal value more than quadrupled what it was before.  I found that having a serious intimate relationship allowed me to reduce the time I was spending on chasing women, and increase the time I spent working on myself.

Also, I was able to replace the urges and desires for sex with new thoughts so that I could be more productive.

Productivity inevitably leads to success.  It’s just unfortunate that it takes most men 40-50 years before this is realized.   The longer it takes for a man to settle down with the right life partner, the more time he is wasting to develop his creative genius and build huge success.

Become crystal clear of exactly what you are looking for and it will appear before your eyes.  I promise.

(Read Accomplish Anything Guaranteed to gain a deeper understanding.)

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